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Alexia’s Legacy: Take Time for Appreciation and Recognition

She was tragically taken from us, but her legacy lives on.  Every few weeks we will share excerpts from the book.

Ray

Tonight I wrote a bunch of thank you cards for all the leaders and execs at McKesson that helped make the internship so memorable for me. I did a 30 minute work-out. I am writing my journal and am off to bed!

Alexia

 

Karolyn,

Great update for everyone! Thank you so much for this! Melissa has completed the hours and was having lunch with the director who can verify that last Friday so she should just need to turn in the form. I will double check though!

Alexia

 

Lesson: Take time for appreciation and recognition.

We are often busy with the chaos of life and forget to take time to show people how much we appreciate their help and support. But it is important to take that time, not just for them but for ourselves. It makes us feel better to reflect on things we are grateful for and to share those feelings with other people. Successful leaders make time to show appreciation and recognition for the people who make a difference and who make things happen.

Opportunity: Think about how you can recognize and appreciate someone today.

 

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Happiness Hack #43 – Practice Your Happy Dance

Have you ever watched a 4 year-old when they found out they get to go to Disney World, or a six-year old when they finally learned to ride a bike or hit a baseball. They celebrate their wins and successes with little dances of happiness and joy. As we grow older we lose that ability to express our joy. We become more serious, start worrying about what people might think of us, and ignore our small successes because we are focused on the bigger goals in life. We are drifting past our opportunities to be a little happier.

Start practicing your happy dance. Do it alone in your bedroom behind a locked door if necessary, but practice how you would act if something great happened to you. Then start practicing on little successes. Do your Happy Dance when you get to work early because of no traffic, or when a good friend reaches out to you, or when you get a great birthday present. Do your Happy Dance just because you know it is going to be a great day.

How many moments in your life can you find to celebrate? The more small moments you can celebrate, the more joy and happiness you can bring into your life and the lives of others.

Do your Happy Dance!

 

“No matter what, do the Happy Dance once a day. It is your own physical expression of sheer joy.” Mary Frances Winters

 

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Appreciation: Is it old fashioned or is it the key to our future?

Guest Blog by Susan Carson from Smart Leadership Coaching

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately. I am seeing a resurgence of great money making programs – like small church initiatives or relationship development. All books and programs aiming to re-create or to re-empower or to reinvigorate programs. All programs based on human beings. The new words being “reinventing relationships”. The new magic cure for what ails the world. Like it is a brand new concept. That will create visions. That will bring people back into the churches and synagogues which have lost their central themes of being the real home for people. Or to make businesses work better. Or to retain employees. Or to make students want to learn more. Or to make people care more. All of this saddens me. I realized that while I was at a board meeting of a temple that I am a member of. People were talking about the purpose and the wisdom behind this new magical program to bring us together as Jews. At the same time I have a dear friend who is active in helping her church revive the smaller churches (and some of the bigger ones) and again its all about creating relationships. So what – does this have to do with appreciation? Well – I think all these initiatives – all these books and programs– treatises on relationships are really all about appreciation. And taken to the real basics it is like saying: Please and thank you to each other. I appreciate you. I care about you enough to want you to learn more. We want to keep you as a member of our business family. Yes, I can go back to the Bible and talk about treating your neighbor like you want to be treated. Maybe that is a good place to start. Because I hear people talk about this great new concept about relationships and engagement. But I still hear people forget to say thank you. I still hear people forget to say you are welcome. So for me it comes down to appreciation. We have forgotten the basics of being with each other. Yes, I agree when taken to a different level there will be the glue that holds certain people together. Be it a religious faith, or energies or wanting to learn or whatever. But if we forget what it is that makes us all human. What good will any of these programs do? Actually what is the reality of engagement or relationships? I still remember teaching my son to say thank you to the toll collectors – and to make sure he got their names to be included in the thank you. Some people call it gratitude. I call it appreciation. Recently, I proposed a fund raising/money saving way to a non-profit. The person making the decision was all about the bottom line, his main concern – his basic value. I can understand his reasoning. So my idea lost. That is okay. What hurt was, not hearing a please or thank you, but no thanks. That would have meant the world to me. Yes I would have been disappointed at not having my idea accepted, but I would have dealt with that. He has no clue about the basics. I don’t want to hear from a person like him all about relationships. For what are they talking about without showing respect for one another – for showing appreciation for who we are. Maybe a better example would be. Someone left our community recently. They moved to a different area for business. While they were here in our community however, they contributed so much – and I don’t mean just love, I mean love, caring, always being there – and most of all showing respect for others. I remember every time I saw her with someone there was that sense of respect – that appreciation for the other person. That is what I will miss about her. So when they were about to leave, one member of the community took the bull by the horns and scheduled a going away event for them. She wasn’t the closest to them. She wasn’t a “best friend” or “BFF” but she saw they needed a way for the community to say thank you. And she took it on herself to do it. In spite of being a busy person – a technical professional, wife, mother, etc. – she still took it on. And no one said thank you – even at the event – no one said thank you to her for what she did. I know some of you are thinking that you do things to do them and do them right and that is all the thanks you get. But be honest, it is not enough. We are talking about relationships. The basis of all growth and development. I suspect that is why she did what she did. For the right way to celebrate relationships. To show appreciation by a simple thank you – or by honoring others at an event. So don’t talk to me about these big in initiatives about relationships or engagement until you show me the basics. Just my two cents.

Happiness Hack #1 Find 3 Things to Be Grateful for Everyday

Happiness Hack #1 Find 3 Things to Be Grateful for Everyday

Research shows that people who express gratitude regularly are healthier, less stressed, and more successful. Gratitude gives you something positive to focus on as you tackle the challenges life throws at you.

Every morning when you wake up, think of three things that you are grateful for. They could be as simple as having running water (something 1/3 of the world doesn’t have) or a family, or a place to live, or a job. Remind yourself everyday about the good things in your life.

 

Happiness Hack #2  – End the Day on a Good Note

Happiness Hack #3 – Schedule 15 minutes every morning for prioritized “Me” time

Happiness Hack #4 – Practice Autonomy

Happiness Hack #5 Make Time To Exercise

Happiness Hack #6: Find Flow

Happiness Hack #7 Keep a Happiness Jar

Happiness Hack #8 Finding Meaning

Happiness Hack #9 Start Small

 

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My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

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