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My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

Don’t Chase Happiness, Create Happiness with Your Habits

Happiness is not something you catch. It is something you are. It is contentment, fulfillment, and satisfaction. It is not rainbows and cotton candy all the time. We all have bad moments as well as good moments and all of our emotions are part of our happiness.

If we focus on how much happiness we can gain, we tend to become less happy. But if we focus on creating and practicing habits that will lead to happiness, we eventually discover that we are happier.

It is a conundrum that many people struggle with. To become happier, you have to be aware you want to be happier and purposefully take action so you can become happier. But if you focus only on the results of your actions rather than on creating happiness habits, you don’t become happier and you could actually become less happy.

The secret is to focus on creating the habits that build a life of happiness. Think about what you can give vs. what you receive and on what you can appreciate instead of what you will get. Happiness comes from how you live your life not what you get out of life.

Here are some examples to help illustrate:

  1. Happiness Exercise: Think of three things you are grateful for each morning. If your immediate response after you have completed this exercise is to evaluate your happiness and to note that you are not actually happier, you have missed your opportunity. The exercise creates a positive cycle of appreciation for what you have that can continue throughout the day. The positive impacts come after many days of this positive cycle creating lots of additional thoughts about why you appreciate who and what is in your life. You look back and realize you are a little happier. If you end your session with the declaration that you are not happier and it didn’t work, then you create a negative cycle of what is not working in your life and why you are not happy. Be grateful because it is a good habit to be grateful rather than because of how much happier it will make you.

 

  1. Happiness Exercise: Do a random act of kindness. The impact of this exercise comes from the feeling you get from selflessly helping someone else. If you help someone else just so you can be happier, you have negated the benefit. Your act is no longer selfless and the result is it does not have the same impact. Be kind to others because it is a good habit to create.

 

  1. Happiness Exercise: End the day thinking about one good thing that happened. Science shows that since we can’t remember every detail about every day, we summarize by remembering our last experience. So if we remember a good final experience each day, we will look back on our days and see them as happier. If we look back on our days and think about how we are not happier, we will see our life as less happy. Think about good things at the end of each because it a great habit and when you look back your will recognize your happiness.

Don’t wake up asking to be happy, wake up thinking about how you can help others be happy. Or wake up thinking about what changes you can make to improve your life. Happiness is not something you receive and not something you can keep, like a trophy. Happiness is a state of being. You choose each day whether you want to be happy. You can create daily habits that will make you and others happy.

Don’t chase happiness. Create habits of happiness.

 

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My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

3 Steps to Making Your Life Matter

Have you ever felt there was something more to life?  That what you have should be enough, but there is still a restlessness you just can’t explain?  Have you ever felt like what you did just didn’t seem to matter and wasn’t as important as what everyone else was doing? Have you felt like no matter how hard you tried you just couldn’t make a difference? Does it ever seem like you are constantly banging your head against wall and nothing important ever changes?

These feelings are all natural and common.  As part of our culture, we learn to chase success as an end result rather than a daily habit. Success is a concept far into the future.  A place we will eventually arrive.  We are led to believe that when we reach the destination of success, we will also become happy. In order to reach this distant port of success and happiness, we have to work hard and sacrifice today’s happiness.  Or we hear that spending time being happy is frivolous and will prevent us from reaching success.

Happiness and success are connected. They are intertwined in our actions, but they are not a pinnacle we reach, they are daily habits and practices. They are small things we choose to do every day, that eventually lead to milestones of success along a journey that lasts our entire life. The antidote to the feelings described above is to choose positive actions every day that will help us feel contented and fulfilled, that will help us feel like we matter and can make a difference, and that will help us feel hopeful and excited to get up every morning.

 

  1. Find your Higher Purpose – How can you help others?  How can you make a difference in someone else’s life?  What are you really passionate about?  What are you really good at and how can you use that strength to help someone else?
  2. Define Success – what is success for you?  What have you accomplished so far that meets that definition?  What are you doing everyday to reach your definition of success?  Take a moment to appreciate what you have accomplished, no matter how small.
  3. Choose Happiness – You can choose to be happy.  You can choose to find and appreciate what is good in your life or you can choose to be angry and upset about what is bad in your life.   What do you have that you can be grateful for?  What positive things are going on in your life?  Make time to be happy.  Fight the urge to ruminate on everything that doesn’t go the way you want it to.  Don’t just talk about being happy.  Take action!  Choose to be happy and take actions everyday that lead toward happiness.

 

You matter.  Your life matters.  You can make a difference.   Gain clarity on how, by finding your Higher Purpose, defining success and choosing happiness.

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My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

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