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Get Excited About Good News

Respond well to good news. It can make your relationships stronger and help them last longer. Research by Gable and team has shown that our happiness is magnified when we can share it with others, and magnified even further if the other person had a positive and enthusiastic response to our happiness. They also found that how your partner responds to good news is a better predictor of the longevity of the relationship than how he or she responds to bad news. Celebrating small wins is ideally something you encounter daily, or at least much more often than you encounter hard times. Sharing small wins with the people who are close to us increases our level of happiness associated with those wins. When others share with us, it is important to respond positively and enthusiastically. We can often dampen their level of happiness by responding negatively or even by responding in a neutral manner.

The responses you can have to someone’s good news fall into four categories:

  1. Positive and participatory–you acknowledge their excitement and engage in positive discussion to share their good news. (active-constructive)
  2. Positive and not participatory–you acknowledge their happiness but don’t engage. (passive-constructive)
  3. Negative and participatory–you find and point out the negative impact of their news. (active-destructive)
  4. Negative and not participatory–you ignore or barely acknowledge their good news. (passive-destructive)

Partners who regularly receive responses that are positive and participatory “are happier, more satisfied with their relationships, experience fewer conflicts, and have more fun with their partners than people who receive the other types of responses” according to Gable and team.

 

Get excited about good news. It will improve your relationships and your happiness.

 

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Happiness Hack #24 Get Excited about Good News

 

Good news is an opportunity for someone close to you to share their excitement about big and small accomplishments. People who are really good with children do this naturally. When a child walks up and proudly shows them how they tied their own shoe or finished a puzzle with six pieces, they get noticeably excited and share their feeling of accomplishment with the child. It is a celebration for something that may seem small to an adult observer, but the children love it. They work to find more accomplishments they can show off. When we become adults, we don’t lose that need or that desire to share our great news and little wins with other people. We look for that joyous feeling and sense of accomplishment. So how we handle those opportunities in a relationship is important. Dismissing them as menial or something that should have already been accomplished takes away that joy. So does talking over their news and telling them about our lives, because we just can’t wait to get it out. Taking time to appreciate, compliment, and celebrate their little successes and news is just as important for adults as it is for children. Close connections are formed in the small interactions around good news and small accomplishments. These small acts show them that we value them, and that what happens in their lives is important to us.

 

So get excited about good news. Share the happiness.

 

 

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About 

My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

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