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Happiness Hack #63 – Don’t Wait for the Weekend

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Be Happy Today!

It starts when we are young; sitting in classrooms dreaming about how much fun we will have on the weekend. The sheer anticipation of no class and no homework makes us happy. Then recess starts or we go to lunch and talk to our friends and find additional reasons to be happy. But as we get older and our lives and the week become more stressful, anticipation turns into expectation.  We look at our crummy day at work and expect that we will be happier when the weekend comes. Unfortunately, that doesn’t work.
The difference is subtle but important for our happiness. Anticipation makes us happier today as we think about positive outcomes in the future while expectation puts off happiness in the hope that something will change and we will find happiness in the future. Anticipation leaves us open to happiness today while expectation gives up today’s happiness because it will come later. The challenge is that happiness really doesn’t come later.
New research is showing that for many of us, we actually become less happy on the weekends. We build up our expectations of happiness to such a high level that we end Saturday disappointed.   Then on Sunday, we start worrying about what challenges we will face next week. It creates an unhappy cycle of not enjoying today because the weekend will be happier but then the weekend can’t make up for all the happiness we missed during the week.
The solution is to be happy today.  Anticipate happiness so you can enjoy today more.  But don’t give up your happiness today by expecting happiness in the future. Certain aspects of today will be stressful and crummy; so what can you find to enjoy today? Can you take a moment to be grateful for something or focus on a great memory? There is something good about today.  Find it and focus on it.  Do the same thing for weekends. Enjoy and be present in your weekends. Don’t think about the coming week and what you will miss or how bad it will be. Think about today and what is great about today.
Don’t wait for the weekends to be happy. Find reasons to be a little happy today and every day. Happy moments create happy days.  Happy days lead to happy weeks.  Happy weeks build happy years and lots of happy years create a happy life full of wonderful memories.  Create a happy day!

 

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My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

Happiness Hack #62 – Is Your Thinking Stinking?

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What Do You Spend Your Time Thinking About?

Do you spend your time thinking about what went wrong and why your job or your life are not what you want them to be?  Do you ruminate about a list of people who have treated you poorly and how you will eventually confront them and set them straight? Are you worrying about the things that could go bad in your future? These are all signs of “Stinking Thinking.”

You can fill your head with thoughts about how great life is, what you appreciate about people, and what you are going to do to create a great future or you can fill your head with negative thoughts.  The choice is yours.  “Stinking Thinking” leads to stinky results and positive thinking leads to positive results and more happiness for you and those around you.

It is natural to have negative thoughts, but you don’t have to let them overwhelm your thinking. You can create the habit of replacing those negative thoughts with more positive thinking or at least with possible solutions, rather than just focusing on the negative impacts of your problems. Try to catch yourself thinking negative thoughts and find more positive things to replace them. Replace your “Stinking Thinking” with more positive and productive thoughts and you will become happier.

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My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

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